cross talk

[MajestyJo]

A good topic Lin. Cross talk is sharing about something someone else has shared on, giving an opinion and 'sage' advice as to what they think they should do. I remember when I first came into recovery, a lot of chairpersons would comment on what every person had shared like he/she was the leading authority.

At the beginning of my NA group there is a section where people are asked to refraim from cross talk, everyone has a right to their own opinion.

I have shared before how a guy said he disagreed with me. I was about 2 years sober and I said to my sponsor, "How can he disagree with MY feelings. He doesn't walk in my shoes." I have had people share and say they would like advice or ask what others had experienced. When someone asks for advice in my Al-Anon group, they are told we don't give advice, but do feel free to share after the meeting when we go for coffee.

I like it because it gives me the right to share my esh and for many years, I was told that my words were not important, and who cared about what I had to say any way? It was hard on my self esteem.

Good to see you here. Please keep coming.