Topic of the Week, Words that begin with the letter "C"

[MajestyJo]

C is for Care. Care for yourself. Top yourself up and only give away the overflow. You can't give away what you don't have.

Remember, we care for you.

[MajestyJo]

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Whatever you are trying to avoid, it won't go away until you confront it.

When I see myself as others see me, do I deny it?

Found myself always getting angry. Didn't know it was a defence mechanism. Didn't know it was denial. When you get to Step Ten, and you hear, every time you point a finger at someone, you have three coming back at you; you don't feel so bad, because you are glad you aren't the one pointing the finger.

Today, I am not as fearful of it. I do try to take it to heart and have a little talk to my God about it. I try to get honest and see my part, get honest, keep an open mind and be willing to change. For me, it is about getting back to basics, which is prayer ad meditation, and applying the Steps.

I have also found that if I avoid it, my God keeps bringing me back to it, and if I don't listen to one person, He will bring someone else into my life to carry the message to me. As a sponsee said many years ago, "Is your God hitting you over the head again with a spiritual cast iron frying pan?"

I did a meditation the other day with one of my many angel cards and got a card that said, "Listen" (Quiet your mind, everything has been taken care of, a quiet body and mind hears quickly and clearly) and if I remember rightly, at the time I shuffled the deck and later went back and read it. Like the card I got tonight, "There is nothing to worry about." When can walk in fear or in faith, we do have a choice.

[MajestyJo]

C is for Cope. Alcohol and drug were my coping tool. I didn't think I could live without them. I just had to have them. I didn't know that the body manufactured the pain to tell me that I needed more. I didn't know that my disease was cunning, baffling, and powerful. I didn't know that when I picked it up drug of choice, or another drug as a substitute (giving myself a pat on the back for not using my drug of choice), that it controlled me and that I any control I had was an illusion. If you have to control it, it is already out of control.

How can I cope with all these emotions without that almighty pill? How can I cope with all those people unless I have that little something to take off the edge? How can I cope with all the stress at work if I don't have something to relax me just a little bit? It is now legal in some states! As the commercials say, it is now 30% stronger now than it was 30 years ago.

How can I cope? How can you expect me to come off everything? I rue the day that my doctor put me on an inhaler so that I could continue smoking when I came into recovery. He said it would kill me if I quit everything, and perhaps he was right. It gave me a license to continue using cigarettes for another 7 years. When I quit smoking, I found that it covered a lot of anger, resentment, abandonment, rejection, and other feelings that hadn't come up and surfaced when I did my original 4th Step. You can't let go of what you don't feel. The cigarettes helped to keep the feeling buried. So did the eating disorder, the addictions to busy, computer, and gambling (Nevada Tickets) that I developed and had to deal with over the years.

How do I cope? With the Serenity Prayer and the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, adapted and applicable to all areas of my life.

[MajestyJo]

C is for Cry. Allow yourself to Cry. Tears are cleansing. They are healing. Not only in today, but they often get to the root of the problem and heal past hurts as well. So often we haven't properly grieved things in our past because of our active addiction and we never allowed ourselves to cry, we stopped up those tears and we found false courage in the bottle and drowned our sorrows in the bottle, instead of letting them flow.

As the song says, "Cry me a river.... I cried a river over you, although quite often they were silent tears.

[MajestyJo]

C is for Count. Count your Blessing. Count the good times. Focus on the positive instead of the negative. Make each day count, you have been given a second chance at life.

[MajestyJo]

C is for Clarity. Clarity is something I pray and ask for. I ask my Higher Power for clarity of thought. I ask for clarity in a situation. I ask for clarity in my life as a whole. I was told that this was a disease of perception, so I asked that my perception be healed and made clear.

[ifnotforgrace]

C= Complacent (A slippery Slope for me)

[dwmoeller]

C is for Conciliation

Elder's Meditation of the Day - April 21

"Conciliation is the key to survival. Peace is the goal."
-- Haida Gwaii, Traditional Circle of Elders

When we make decisions or experience conflict we need to look at the greater whole. The end result we want to accomplish is peace of mind. If we keep this goal in mind, we will, overall, live a happy and fulfilling life. Everything in the world is constantly changing so we should not resist this change. A good question to ask ourselves is, "would I rather be right or happy?". If we would rather be happy, then it is easier to let the little things go. If we would rather be right, we tend to look for the WIN/LOSE.