Are you an alcoholic?

[MajestyJo]

ALCOHOL ALWAYS LIED TO ME
I Drank for Courage... and woke up night after night
horrified.
I Drank for Sophistication... and became crude.
I Drank to find Peace... and ignited a war within
myself.
I Drank to be Friendly... and became argumentative and
nasty.
I Drank to be Sexy... and turned people off.
I Drank so that I could Relate to Others... and I babbled.
I Drank to put down Loneliness... and found myself
retreating more and more into my shell.
I Drank to Relax... and woke up tense.
I Drank to be Entertaining... and became an obnoxious clown.
I Drank to Live More Fully... and contemplated suicide.
I Drank for Adventure... and discovered disaster.
I Drank to be more Honest... and insulted my friends.
I Drank to Quiet my Nerves... and woke up with hangover
jangles.
I Drank to Feel Better... and ended up sick and throwing up.
I Drank to have Fun... and passed out in the middle of the party.
I Drank to Pep Myself Up... and ended up exhausted.
I Drank to feel Successful... a Big Shot... but ended up a
failure.
I Drank for Security... and became afraid of my shadow.
I Drank to Feel Better about Myself... and ended up hating me.
I Drank to prove I could handle Alcohol... and ended up
knowing it controlled me.
A Friend asked...
"But surely, now that you've been Sober awhile, it
would take a lot of alcohol to put you back in that
condition."

"Just One Drink," I answered!

~Author Unknown

[MajestyJo]

One of the things that stood out for me in early recovery was a person who shared, when you take away the alcohol, the 'ics' are still there.

The alcohol was but a symptom of my disease. It was the thinking and behaviors behind the drinking that I needed to change and let go of.

I haven't had a drink in 22 years and yet I can still slip back into old patterns and behaviors. The good thing is it doesn't happen as often and I can recognize where I am at and I can make a decision to pick up the tools to change.

Just for this day, I will try to be the best me that I can be today.

This is something I posted in 2009, and it is still good in today. This is a one day at a time program.

[MajestyJo]

Alcohol Abuse: Do You Drink Too Much?

Go on: Have another. You'll be hailing the cab anyway as you're a bit over the limit now. As for tomorrow, you survived work with a hangover last Tuesday, didn't you? Besides, it's your boss offering the next round! Make it a pint. Oh, and mental note: Don't forget to pick up some beer tomorrow for Sunday's game.

In a recent study paid for by Britain's Centre for Crime And Justice Studies, researchers found that alcohol was more harmful compared to other drugs like heroin and crack cocaine. And because the consumption of alcohol is ingrained in our culture, it poses additional risks; whether it's a workplace social at the pub, a case of beer for the game or a night of drinking your buddies under the table, alcohol has a prominent position in the culture of the young working man. In fact, it seems to be as much a part of socializing as body language.

But is there a point when "frequently drunk" becomes "infrequently sober?" Are you really sure that your drinking poses no threat to your social, work or physical health? Considering that an estimated 12 to 14 million Americans (about one in 12 adults) have a drinking problem, but only 8 million of these are alcoholics, you may not be pouring whisky on your cornflakes just yet, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask yourself if you drink too much.

What Level?
Experts split drinking habits into four groups relating to the risk the habits pose to psychological and physical health: social, heavy, problematic and dependent. At what level are you drinking?

Social Drinking
Social, or "moderate," drinking in the United States would be defined as no more than two drinks a day. So if you're gulping down a couple of pints a day from Monday to Friday with work colleagues, having a couple of glasses of red at a dinner party on Saturday and taking two cold ones from the fridge for Sunday's game, you're pushing the boundaries, but you wouldn't be rushed for a stomach-pumping session anytime soon. This is where you want to be as the guy climbing the career ladder or mixing with friends; you're sociable, can enjoy a drink, but you also know when to stop.

Heavy Drinking
A heavy drinker is someone who regularly drinks above the safe limits defined in "social drinking." Consuming more than four units in one session is potentially harmful to your health and, if done regularly, can lead to serious problems. Cirrhosis of the liver, damaged pancreas, sexual or heart problems are all linked to heavy alcohol consumption. But don't just consider physical signs. When you find yourself deserted by your colleagues -- again -- as you dance the cha-cha-cha on the pool table, things may have reached a new level. If relationships, work productivity or home life show signs of suffering due to drinking habits, you should cut down your consumption.

Problem Drinking
A "problem" drinker clunks a six-pack on the counter on a daily basis -- despite alcohol-related health, work or social problems. While not being so dependent on alcohol as to experience withdrawal symptoms, the drinking is a social and daily habit. Do you feel guilty about drinking? Do you often skip work after a night out? These are more subtle signs than cirrhosis of the liver (which is likely to be evident at this point), but they are still signs that you drink too much.

Alcohol Dependence
This is the muddy puddle at the bottom of the slippery slope. Where you were once the life and soul of the party, the young talent with an eye on the company director's chair and the example of work/life balance, you now find yourself giving up social and occupational commitments, drinking more to achieve any effect and experiencing withdrawal symptoms should you find yourself too broke to buy the booze. Despite alcohol being the origin of your current problems, it is the solution to your woes, the solace you seek and the craving that gnaws at your better judgment. Alcoholics will often deny excessive drinking, so counting up your weekly unit intake may not be the best way to become self-aware. But have you experienced some of the above life changes?

Look at Your Drinking in Perspective
It's true that work relationships often benefit from a pint after office hours. Unfortunately, though, there are many stories of the young professional who became the guy running topless over the taxi, who became the all-too-often empty chair at work, who eventually became the guy telling a bottle all about the great job he once had before the days he had to munch on eight pills to treat his liver.

The important factor to keep in mind if you're worried that you drink too much is that there are always resources to help you manage your consumption, whatever your drinking level. If you feel you have a problem, you do. Your doctor will be able to direct you to local resources and support and will offer counsel as you cut down your consumption.

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This story, written by Chris Good, first appeared on AskMen.com. Used with permission.

A good reminder, it is the thinking behind the drinking and drugging. When my mind things more, I am in my addiction.

When I get needy, I get greedy, and it doesn't matter what substance I am using, I want more.