When we all arrive at recovery we're all stuck. We're all living our life, and doing things in a way that doesn't work, that's outdated, and isn't of any use to us, it no longer fits any of us, but none of us could figured out on our own how we could ever change this, and replace it with something else that works, that's better for us. This is where the program of recovery can help us, it can do this for us if we let it by doing what is suggested that we do. By doing the work that's found in the 12 steps of the program, it will do this for us. The growth that all of us were seeking and lacking is given to us by us doing the steps, and there is no other way we can get it. Now that we're in recovery we either take the steps and grow or go back to what we all knew wasn't working for us, the choice is yours to make.