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bluidkiti · 04-12-2014, 12:54 PM

Stopping Negative Thought Patterns

1 Chronicles 28:9 - “The Lord…understands every motive behind the thoughts.”

“I often worry my family and boss will be disappointed and angry with me,” admitted a busy and well-liked woman. “I do everything possible to control their responses and reactions. I get so anxious I want to run away, but I’m driven to stay around and repeat the process. How can I change?”

Like my friend, I’ve often felt like I’m on this merry-go-round. I’ve learned a helpful exercise called ‘thought stopping and substitution.’ First I try to identify the stress-producing thought. For example: “My boss will be angry because I didn’t get everything done. That would be terrible. There must something wrong with me.” Next, I imagine the anticipated scene. I let myself feel the negative emotions it causes — knot in the stomach, sweaty palms, nauseated sensation.

Then, I interrupt the destructive thought and substitute it with a new one. Perhaps: “My value does not depend on my boss’s opinion or mood. I finished all I could. I’m not a terrible person.”

Learning to break the vicious cycle perpetuated by negative thought patterns is like developing a new habit. It takes time. Be patient with yourself.

God Lord, you understand me. Help me identify and change the destructive thoughts that rob my peace.

Joan C. Webb

MajestyJo · 04-12-2014, 09:56 PM

Tonight I am hurting, I know I need to eat, but have been fighting it. It is difficult to get past the pain, but I know it is now time, to take a break, do a meditation after saying a prayer. Things will be as they should be, not as I tell myself and prevents me from the old thinking to come back. I can`t, my God can.

bluidkiti · 04-13-2014, 01:52 PM

I pray that you are feeling better today.

MajestyJo · 04-13-2014, 08:51 PM

Not a good day, the internet suggested anti-inflammatories but I can't take them. Thanks for asking.

Just have to accept what is and deal with it, without picking up a pill. I had muscle spasms in my head and through the trunk of my body, but they were small compared to my feet and not being able to walk.

I was told many years ago when they first started, to cup my hands over my mouth and blow into them, then inhale the carbon back into my body. I had forgotten, when I was in the pain, and my son reminded me.

There is always a solution. It is up to me to look for it, and I did. I prayed and asked for help.

04-12-2014, 12:54 PM	#1
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 73,858	Stopping Negative Thought Patterns Stopping Negative Thought Patterns 1 Chronicles 28:9 - “The Lord…understands every motive behind the thoughts.” “I often worry my family and boss will be disappointed and angry with me,” admitted a busy and well-liked woman. “I do everything possible to control their responses and reactions. I get so anxious I want to run away, but I’m driven to stay around and repeat the process. How can I change?” Like my friend, I’ve often felt like I’m on this merry-go-round. I’ve learned a helpful exercise called ‘thought stopping and substitution.’ First I try to identify the stress-producing thought. For example: “My boss will be angry because I didn’t get everything done. That would be terrible. There must something wrong with me.” Next, I imagine the anticipated scene. I let myself feel the negative emotions it causes — knot in the stomach, sweaty palms, nauseated sensation. Then, I interrupt the destructive thought and substitute it with a new one. Perhaps: “My value does not depend on my boss’s opinion or mood. I finished all I could. I’m not a terrible person.” Learning to break the vicious cycle perpetuated by negative thought patterns is like developing a new habit. It takes time. Be patient with yourself. God Lord, you understand me. Help me identify and change the destructive thoughts that rob my peace. Joan C. Webb __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

04-12-2014, 09:56 PM	#2
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Tonight I am hurting, I know I need to eat, but have been fighting it. It is difficult to get past the pain, but I know it is now time, to take a break, do a meditation after saying a prayer. Things will be as they should be, not as I tell myself and prevents me from the old thinking to come back. I can`t, my God can. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-13-2014, 01:52 PM	#3
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 73,858	I pray that you are feeling better today. __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

04-13-2014, 08:51 PM	#4
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Not a good day, the internet suggested anti-inflammatories but I can't take them. Thanks for asking. Just have to accept what is and deal with it, without picking up a pill. I had muscle spasms in my head and through the trunk of my body, but they were small compared to my feet and not being able to walk. I was told many years ago when they first started, to cup my hands over my mouth and blow into them, then inhale the carbon back into my body. I had forgotten, when I was in the pain, and my son reminded me. There is always a solution. It is up to me to look for it, and I did. I prayed and asked for help. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

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