Lessons Of Reflection

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Lessons Of Reflection

When we care about people, we want to save them from pain by offering
them the benefit of our experience. Sometimes we feel like we know what
is best for them. Sometimes, like when their safety is involved, we
need to step in, but those times are rare. More often we find ourselves
becoming frustrated when our close friends or family members do not use
our relationship insights or follow our dietary advice, and this is
where we find our challenge. We may even find ourselves becoming angry when
they choose another path. This strength of feeling is usually a sign
that our motivations go beyond merely helping another to indicate that
there is a lesson there for us.

First, we need to keep in mind that each of us is on our own path and
that we all learn differently. When we trust the universe, we know that
there is a higher power at work that knows what is best for our loved
one. Since we do not want to deny them experiences of deep feeling that
are essential steps in the growth of their spirit, we can instead offer
them our counsel. After we have given our gift, it is time to release
it, along with our expectations of them and their choices, with love.

Once that is done, we can remind ourselves that our relationships are
mirrors that allow us to see ourselves more clearly in the reflection.
That is why it is easier for us to see solutions to other people’s
problems than to see answers for our own. We can also learn from these
experiences when we ask ourselves if we ever do the same thing. Maybe we do
not share experiences with relationships, but we do with our finances
or our food choices. In being willing to look at ourselves and see why
we are being irritated by what other people choose to do with their
lives, we can be like an oyster and make irritations into pearls. With
these pearls of wisdom, we learn to release the desire for control over
others and instead enrich their lives as we enrich our own.
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