Steps By The Big Book

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II WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE- What does the Big Book say to me about my practice of Step 4?


Share about experiences with resentments and how working the Steps worked on them.


Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. 64: 0-66: 2) Try reading these out loud.
List assets and liabilities as to which behaviors and thought-habits work, and which do not work, to give serenity and peace of mind in life. See page 34 this workbook.



A. The 1ST Working of the Grudge List: Who? How? What? Begin with centering silence. Ask for help. In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper. (64: 3)

• List all the people, institutions, or principles you resent. Tip: Carry a list with you and write down details about every time you are restless, irritated, and discontent, every time you are annoyed, angry, or have expectations, etc.

• Try the example of the Mr. Brown multi-column chart on BB page 65.

Grudge List from this example (65: 2)
I’m resentful at:
Who? (People, Places, Things, Institutions, Principles, etc.)
The Cause:
How? How they hurt or threatened me.
Affects my:
What? What part of self affected that I reacted to.

• Fill in only the first column for now.
• Make the chart as large or as small as you see fit.

1.) Who? The First Column: “Who hurt or threatened me?” (65: 0) I’m resentful at… (65: 2)

• In the first column, the grudge list (65: 1), we listed [names of] people, institutions, or principles with whom we were angry. (64: 3)
• List 100 or 300 or 1000 names of people (parents, spouse, co-workers, the people in traffic or the checkout line, etc.), institutions (jail, IRS, etc.), or principles (‘You reap what you sow.’ ‘Our troubles are of our own making,’ etc.) about which you have resentments.

Grudge List
Who? (People, Places, Things, Institutions, Principles, etc.)
…example… (65: 2)
Mr. Brown
Mrs. Jones
My employer
My wife




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