Steps By The Big Book

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STEP 4 Fear Turnarounds


For every Third Column situation and our fear reaction, we fill in our ‘turnarounds.’
Make multiple copies or expand in your notebook.


Where am I responsible? But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling? (67: 3)


Write our Motives. Referring to our list again.Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened? (67: 2)
We write down and share precisely and in detail what our motives were.
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Where was I selfish? (67: 2) [Concern for self regardless of others. Self-absorbed.]
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Where was I dishonest? (67: 2) [A tendency to deceit, conceal our true character, lack perspective. We believed our own lies.]
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Where was I self-seeking (67: 2) or inconsiderate? (69: 1) [Concern for self over – or under – others.]
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Where was I frightened? (67: 2) [Habitual anxiety: Afraid of losing something we have, not getting something we want, or of being found out for who we are.]
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Write our faults.
The inventory was ours, not the other man's. When we saw our faults we listed them. We placed them [faults] before us in black and white. (67: 2)


Where was I at fault? (67: 2) [A seismic gap between our own or others’ deeply held values or our own instincts in collision. Out of bounds? Miss the mark?]
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(Why do we act this way? Because….see p. 338)
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Willing to change.
Step 4 Fear Turnaround Meditation / Prayer.


3rd Fear question: “{#3}May I share my feelings and experiences about trusting and relying on the higher power of my understanding?” (See 68: 2, 3)
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[Optional: God of my understanding, I pray that you remove my fear and direct my attention to being who you would have me be today. May thy will, not mine, be done. (See 68: 3)]


pp. 57-58